How to control your Anger before it Controls you - 2

How to control you anger - part 2

Expressing Anger:

Responding aggressively is the instinctive, natural way to express anger. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival. On the other hand, we can't physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us; laws, social norms, and common sense place limits on how far our anger can take us.

People us a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive - not aggressive - manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make hurting others. Being assertive doesn't mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others.

Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and concert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response it that if it isn't allowed outward expression, you anger can turn inward - on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.

Unexpressed anger can create other problems. It can lead to behavior (getting back a t people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head -on) or a personality that putting other down, criticizing everything, and making cynicat comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren't likely to have many successful relationship.

to be continued.................